I’ve had a lot on my mind lately. Things that can at times, feel overwhelming. It probably doesn’t help that we’ve had the longest winter here in Ontario than we have in quite some time (I’m seriously considering packing up the family and heading out West next winter). Some days the overwhelm can get you.
I’ve got this little thing on my thyroid that is probably nothing – a tiny little nodule is all – and my six month old has been plagued with eczema for about 6-7 weeks. The two are intertwined and I’ve been feeling oh so disconnected from my spirit.
My eyes feel heavy. My mind is racing. I can’t focus on a single task.
Sure signs that it’s time for some re-connecting.
I spend so much time writing about spirituality and personal growth that sometimes I feel frustrated that I’ve veered off course – I’ve lost my way.
But, I truly believe it happens to all of us. It’s a part of the human experience. Challenges are presented to us to force us to grow and when they arrive it’s time to first step back, and then dig deep and get to the real root of the challenge.
I am not enlightened, but I like to think I’m evolving.
I’ve been feeling it lately. The invisible pressure is there and it’s only a few months away.
What am I referring to?
My thirtieth birthday.
The lists are popping up all over the place; 30 things travelers should do before they turn 30, or 25 things to do under 25. It has seemed a bit daunting as I chose to have a family young (or, fill in the blank with your own experience) and didn’t have the opportunity to climb Mount Kilimanjaro yet.
Just this morning I came across an article about the Millennial/Gen Y obsession with Youth. So… I’m not alone. What a relief.
My main issue with all of this hype and all of these lists is that they are cementing in this idea that turning thirty is the end of our youth, and that’s bad.
But, I know a lot of thirty-somethings, and they seem pretty content. More free even? Definitely comfortable in their own skin.
So… instead of attaching ourselves to this idea of “lost youth”, I vote for embracing the new decade and welcoming it with open arms. I’ve come up with thirty helpful ideas on how we can make our thirties our best decade yet.
We can make it a decade of nourishment for our minds, bodies and spirits.
1. Question your Beliefs -Wayne Dyer said it best when he said, “A belief system is nothing more than a thought you’ve thought over and over again.” We become so attached to a certain way of thinking we close ourselves off to the wonders of open-mindedness. Start with your strongest beliefs, they may be the most rooted in fear.
2. Listen to Talk Radio – If you don’t already, spend a little time each day tuning in to NPR in the US or CBC Radio 1 in Canada. Empower yourself by learning about interesting people and important situations you may not otherwise hear of.
3 . Start getting regular therapeutic massages – Most of us sit with computers on our laps or in front of us, and spend just as much time looking down at our phones. We need to do ourselves a favor and prevent damage to our bodies now – a good therapeutic massage can help with this. I swear by them.
4. Eat Clean – I don’t have to tell you guys about the terrible food system. I know you’re conscious of it (and McDonald’s is shaking in their boots.) But – make a commitment – eat mostly clean if you can. Whole, fresh foods. (Click here for some suggestions.)
5. Start or Join a book club – Ask your friends and family if they know of one, and if you can’t find one to join, start one yourself. (And think outside the box. I just joined one on Instagram using a specific hashtag that we all follow. Love the medium!)
6. Become a better Listener – I recently shared 4 reasons why we should try to become better listeners. The reasons include raising others self-esteem, and becoming more present. Read them all over on Beliefnet.
7. Say Goodbye to Envy – I just wrote about envy yesterday and its relation to social media. But it doesn’t just end there. Read my friend Michelle’s take on Comparison which I believe is an extension of envy. It’s a “Thief of Joy.”
8. Keep Judgments at Bay – There are many reasons why judging others not only hurts them, but hurts us as well. Read more here about how (and why) you should try to stop judging others.
9. Get to know the Ocean – Nature has healing properties yes, and I’ve never met a problem that the ocean couldn’t help solve. This vast mass of water has an energy field that cleanses and heals. Make an effort to visit it as often as you can (which may be once every few years, but it’s better than nothing).
10. Get your Hands Dirty – A while back I wrote about the idea that when we grow plants, they have the exact nutrients and minerals in them that our specific bodies require, (this idea comes from Dr. Christiane Northrup). So – get your hands dirty and start planting some food. (Kale is one of the most popular veggies these days and so easy to grow!)
11. Act without Motive – When you choose to do something for someone else, NEVER expect anything in return. The same goes for work. It may seem unnatural when it comes to the work side – of course you want that raise, but don’t expect it.
12. Take walks without music – I love listening to music while I walk, but take a couple of days a week to just listen to silence. It’s an easy way to train your mind to quiet down if you are struggling with meditation or just beginning.
13. Read one of these books – Trust me on this.
14. Be the Change – Don’t let the passion you feel for a certain cause or social issue go to waste, turn it into action. Start by researching what is lacking and what is needed and go from there. You don’t have to be a billionaire to change the world.
15. Watch the sunrise once a week - this is a simple act that can help to ground you and serves to remind that we are, as Rumi said, a mighty ocean in a drop.
16. Eat dinner outdoors regularly - Mealtime has become something we “get through” during our otherwise busy lives. Eating outside slows things down and allows us to experience some presence in our day.
17. Take a solo trip - Have you taken a trip alone? If not, be sure to make some time to do so. You learn a lot about yourself when you do.
18. Make a vision board of your dreams – Turn your dreams into something concrete with a vision board. It can help you to become more clear on what you really want. Let your spirit take the lead on this one and you will be pleasantly surprised with how it turns out.
19. Question Your Definition of Success – I wrote about success recently and how you define it. Do you define it by your career? Read on…
20. Learn to Meditate – Or unlearn to think. Here is a great beginners guide… It all starts with a candle.
21. Close Your Eyes & Leap – Take a chance on a business, or relationship. Step out of your comfort zone. This is where the magic happens.
22. Merge Passion with Business – Make decisions in your career to get you to your dream – each move a step closer. The most successful businesses stem from passion. This simple choice will help you live a life of true happiness.
23. Let your Intuition Guide You – If you can become more familiar with the quiet side of life, you will also tap into your intuition. Decisions flow much more easily when they come from this space.
24. Embrace your uniqueness – I know, I know… this sounds like typical Gen Y jargon, but since we are coming of age in an era of narcissism – it’s important to address this. We’ve been masquerading as a group full of self-esteem that is actually quite insecure. Let’s truly embrace what makes us unique and run with it.
25. Put Grudges to Rest – Let the life-long (thus far) grudges fall silently to the wayside. High school, college, first jobs – they are far behind now. The ability to forgive is an important element to overall well-being. Start your thirties with a clean slate.
26. Let Go Of Broken Friendships – The ones that are hanging on by a thread. Just let it go. We are constantly evolving and sometimes those old friendships have served their purpose and are holding us back from our own growth. Silently wish them the best them and move forward.
27. Make Time For Quality Friendships – On the other end of the spectrum, we can get so caught up in our busy lives we often neglect our wonderful friendships. Our time together is precious, and we never know how long we have with this person, so make time.
28. Contemplate Life – If you haven’t already, spend some time reading the great philosophers of our day. Mix in some modern spiritual gurus.
29. Face your fears – I wrote about facing the fear of death at length with some tips on how to address it here. This goes for all fears.
Can I be honest here?
I’m an avid APP deleter.
I find that I’ve been scarred by so many imperfect Apps that I tend to shy away from adding too many to my phone – and much like the ability I have to determine whether or not I like a website within the first 10 seconds of landing on it – the same can be said with Apps.
Now that you know I’m a tough sell when it comes to Apps and my standards are (too) high, today I’ll be sharing my favorite personal growth, spiritual, and meditation Apps. They are good, I promise.
#1. Simply Being- FREE!
This is actually my favorite app! I use it every single day to put my son to sleep and leave it on during meditation or just while relaxing.
#2. The Power of Now Meditation Deck – $7.99
I love this deck as well. The cards are organized in an simple manner, there is a meditation timer, a place to make notes and I LOVE the random card feature. It always seems to know what I need.
If you’re a fan of Tolle, this is worth the $7.99.
I love Hay House Radio shows – and it’s nice to be able to tune in anytime, anywhere. Definitely recommend this one!
#4. Gratitude Journal – The Life Changing App – $3.99
My friend Alex opened my eyes to gratitude apps back in January – and since this time I’ve come to love one in particular; Gratitude Journal. I like this App because its visually pleasing (so many are not!), and it allows you to add pictures. It also has the option to password protect your app which I like. Two thumbs up here.
#5. Daily Deepak - FREE
There is always plenty happening at Deepak central. It’s a goodie at no charge to get the wheels churning in your head.
I’ve been waiting years for this TED Talk!
Since I began working one-on-one with charities, I’ve come to witness the challenges they face which Pallotta covers in this talk.
If we truly wish to see a change in the world, or if you’ve ever donated money to a cause, which I am sure every one of you has, then you need to give this a watch.
Pallotta seems to cover the objections that you may have (I certainly did), and overcome them with thought-provoking detail.
You can learn more about Dan’s work here.
Please share your thoughts below!
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” – Wayne Dyer
Lately I can’t help but notice judgment everywhere I turn – and frankly, I have judgment fatigue. I just want a break from it. From hearing it, from doing it. All of it. We’re all guilty of it, but lately it seems like the air of judgment is thick within the imaginary walls of the internet. As hard as I try not to judge others, it still happens and as I wrote over on Kris Carr’s blog, it makes me feel terrible.
As a remedy – I’m declaring the week of March 18th, Non-Judgment week.
A week where anyone who is interested can join me in spending 7 full days enjoying the peace that comes along with viewing others with a kind heart. Perhaps you’ll enjoy it so much, it will help you to continue on after the 7 days are complete. Sometimes we just need a kick-start.
Just for 7 days:
Don’t assume that the way you do something or would do something is the best or the right way.
Don’t criticize others choices or lifestyles
Don’t scoff at someone who has different opinions than you
Just for 7 days…. Can you do it?
If you sign up and take the pledge below, you’ll receive reminders each day for the week which will help you on with your journey – some of my favorite quotes on non-judgment. I also encourage bloggers to join in and write about the topic on the Wednesday during this week, and I’ll have a link up available here.
Sign up below to take the Non-Judgment Pledge, spread the word, grab the badge!
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